ExBest Friends...

We all go through different phases in our lives, each marked by unique experiences and transformations that shape who we are. These phases often coincide with the friendships we cultivate along the way. Some friendships feel like they are built to last forever, creating bonds that seem unbreakable and timeless. However, the reality is that these connections can sometimes dissolve unexpectedly, ending in an instant and leaving us to grapple with the emotional fallout. This phenomenon has occurred countless times throughout human history, affecting individuals in myriad ways. It serves as a poignant reminder of the transient nature of relationships and the complexities of human interaction. So here we go with my story, a personal account that reflects the ebb and flow of friendships in my life, illustrating the lessons learned and the memories cherished, as well as the heartaches endured and the growth that emerged from those experiences.

I ended a nearly 4-year friendship because she hospitalized me against my will and deceived me. After being transferred, I blocked her without warning.

Never hospitalize loved ones during holidays or important family time.

I don't plan to rekindle my friendship with her, and that's fine. She was part of my life for a season, which is now over. I hope to never see her again. My fiancé is upset about the pain she caused him while I was in the psychic ward during the holidays.

Moving on, there are several important aspects to consider and watch out for in your next friendships that you seek or in friendships that you wish to strengthen. First and foremost, it is essential to evaluate the values and interests that you share with potential friends. Common ground can serve as a strong foundation for any relationship, fostering deeper connections and understanding. When you engage with individuals who share similar passions or beliefs, it creates an environment where both parties can thrive and support one another.

Additionally, pay attention to the level of mutual respect and trust present in your interactions. A healthy friendship is built on a solid framework of respect, where both individuals feel valued and heard. Trust is equally critical; it allows for open communication and vulnerability, which are vital components of any strong relationship. If you notice any signs of disrespect or dishonesty, it may be wise to reconsider the dynamics of that friendship.

Furthermore, consider the balance of give and take in your friendships. Healthy relationships often involve a reciprocal exchange of support, encouragement, and care. It's important to assess whether you are both contributing equally to the friendship or if one person is consistently giving more than the other. This balance can significantly affect the longevity and satisfaction of the relationship.

Another key factor to observe is the emotional support that you and your friends provide to each other. Friendships should be a source of comfort and strength, especially during challenging times. If you find that your friends are unsupportive or dismissive of your feelings, it may be time to reevaluate those connections. On the other hand, nurturing friendships that uplift and motivate you can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling social life.

Finally, be mindful of the time and energy you invest in your friendships. Some relationships may require more effort than others, and it's crucial to ensure that this investment is reciprocated. Cultivating friendships that bring joy and positivity into your life will ultimately enhance your overall well-being. As you navigate the landscape of friendships, keep these considerations in mind to foster meaningful connections that enrich your life.

I'll give you 10 things to keep in mind in the table down below:

Social Media	Appearances	Social Status	Their Sign
Do they have it?	Are they pretty or ugly?	Lower Class, Middle Class, or High Class?	Are your signs compatible?
Are they popular?	Are they tall or short?	Are they working to survive or just working to work?	Do your signs clash a lot?
Are they private or public?	Long hair or short hair?	Are they well off without their family?	Are you willing to deal with the outcome of your friendship ending?
Do they like to take pictures of everything?	Natural hair or dyed?	Are they spoiled? Do they have siblings or are they the only one?	Do you attract each other? Or are you complete opposites?
Do they make memes?	Are they skinny or thick?	Are they on Scholarship? (College question)	Are you ready for a new friendship with a sign you never had before?
What are they into?	What size shoes do they wear?	Do they care about their social class in society?	Are you ready for change?
What is there history look like?	What size clothes do they wear?	Are they nepo-babies?	Are they ready for change?
Are they in a relationship?	Do they like jewelry?	Is everything handed to them?	Are you willing to spend time apart?
Are their friends your friends too?	Do they want to lose weight or gain weight?	Do they value what their parents do for them?	Are you willing to spending time together?

Now, this is more than ten questions, and I only realized that after I meticulously compiled the list. However, I made sure to highlight the ones that I believe carry more significance than others, drawing from my personal experiences and observations. One of the questions I included was about body types—specifically, whether someone is skinny or thick. This inquiry often arises because, quite frequently, we women (and men too, for that matter) find ourselves wanting to borrow each other's clothes or, conversely, we wish to purchase the right size for our new friends. The question of body type is not merely superficial; it reflects a deeper social dynamic where clothing and style play a crucial role in how we perceive ourselves and each other.

Moreover, the emphasis on social status is a recurrent theme in many of our interactions and relationships. I have often pondered why this aspect is so prominently highlighted in our society. Reflecting on my last friendship, I realized that my friend was largely oblivious to her own "white privileges," a fact that was particularly pronounced given her background as the daughter of an immigrant. Despite the challenges her family faced, her mother continued to provide her with a substantial monthly allowance, ranging anywhere from $1,500 to $3,000 USD. This financial support allowed her to indulge in extravagant spending habits that many would consider excessive.

To put it mildly, her approach to finances was rather reckless, and her choices often left me astounded. We could describe her as somewhat of an airhead, particularly in light of her academic performance. When she graduated from Pace University, a prestigious institution, her mother was visibly disappointed in her achievements. The reason for this disappointment was stark: she did not graduate with honors. In fact, she didn’t even manage to secure third honors. The expression on her mother’s face during that moment is etched in my memory. It was a look that conveyed profound disappointment and disapproval, a look that seemed to say, "You have dishonored the family." This reaction encapsulated the weight of expectations that some families place on their children, particularly those who are navigating the complexities of identity, privilege, and societal norms.

In summary, the interplay between body image, social status, and personal expectations creates a rich tapestry of experiences that shape our relationships and self-perceptions. It serves as a reminder that our backgrounds, choices, and the perceptions of those around us can significantly influence our lives in ways we may not always recognize.

I take my education seriously, maintaining a 3.98 GPA. I excel academically, as I did in high school, graduating with a 90 average in all honors classes. After 6th grade, I focused on my studies, aiming for UCVTS-APA, which I achieved.