Reddit Scammers and Reddit Dating

Yes, you have read the title correctly. Once a upon a social media age, I have experienced both of these topics. As a Muslim Niqabi woman, there are a lot of creeps and skeptical people that I have come across over the years that i started to use Reddit.

Reddit Date #1

I was courted by someone once on Reddit: Saudi born Pakistani man that was the same age as me. He was nice and sweet. He was very quiet, but once I got to know him, we clicked instantly. We laughed together, cried together, talked about everything. Building our future together. We chatted everyday while I was attending my junior year of University. We ended up exchanging numbers and spoke on WhatsApp. Everything was going very well according to plan, but unfortunately it stopped. He had a dream that he and I were married with children and that he taught me cheating on him with a Black man. So with his fear of me cheating on him and blended with the fact that he didn't want to come to America, we quietly ended our 10 month online relationship.

Reddit Date #2

Another courting that I experienced was from a Zanzibar Yemeni gentleman that was twice my age. We met over reddit from a Kinky Muslim Marriage subreddit that is currently dead at the moment. No one is very active on there. I met the man and he invited me to a Muslim Discord Community were I've made the most loveliest people on there. I met so many Muslim reverts that have become my best friends, and Alhamdulillah I'm very grateful for this man for inviting me to the community that he has spent many years building up himself (ﷲumma Barik). Now, why didn't this pearing workout per say? He didn't think me being a working mother would fit his ideal wife type. I'm not fit to be a mother or a wife in his eyes and that's perfectly fine. On to the next victim of mine.

Reddit Date #3

This one was more recent than the others. Just today, I met this random person who dmed me on Reddit. This was after someone else just started bad mouthing me out of the blue and I reported him to the Shia mod and community. This one person named "Sam", I doubt that it was his real name, he is Pakistani from Chicago, age appropriate for me (25), and very eager to get my number right away. This was a major red flag for me. Wanting my number right away not even days of getting to know who I am first? Not happening. So I did what any regular human being did and got a Google number. There was no way I would have given him my real number. For what? So he can track me down and find out where I live? No thanks, Joe Goldberg.

After exchanging numbers to get on Telegram to speak. We had a heated conversation about my weight and my height. He kept gaslighting me into thinking that I was disrespecting him and comparing him to other men that have done the same thing in the past. I was not about to sit there and be gaslighted and disrespected. He kept asking to see my face and I wasn't comfortable with that. He wouldn't show me his because I wasn't gonna show mine. He asked me what town do I live in, I declined to reply what town. Why? Just why? It's giving me stalker behavior. Just because I wouldn't show my face he didn't want to show his, and then he started to speak over me and we were just at each other's throats. Ugh! Never again. Entitled asshole!

I immediately hung up the phone and block and reported his ass. No thank you. That's why I don't mess around with Pakistani men. They are just terrible people all the way around. The women are even worse. He can take his sorry ass somewhere else, it just won't be in my bed.

Reddit Scam #1 & #2

So these scammers think they are clever with their background stories... They are not fooling me. One guy texted me privating saying that he needed help with money because he and his little sister are poor and they parents are dead. Something among those lines wasn't adding up to me. So I told the kid to go get a job and not beg strangers online for money.

Another scammer today, messaged me about helping him out with his little sister's menstrual cycle. I don't even know how they come up with these stories so quickly and ready to go. I genuinely don’t understand, how dumb can a person be to actually send a Nigerian scammer a check or money for all that matter.

Conclusion

All this just to say be careful and aware with who you communicate with online. Not everyone is who they say they are. Not even yourself or me. Who knows these days. Anything can happen in this dark world that we are living in. You can't trust anyone.